Moving Forward



Another important skill for moving forward in your life is learning how to behave outside of your personality preferences when needed to advance your goals.

Example: Interestingly, although I'm an introvert, one of my life purposes is to teach. Teaching is an extroverted behavior because it involves spending time with groups of people and, for me, expending a lot of energy in the process. But if I want to fulfill my calling to teach, I have to be willing to adopt the behavior of an extrovert at times. If I don't learn to get out of my comfort zone as an introvert, I will never be able to realize my mission of teaching. So I've learned over the years (not only as a professor, but also as a leader and life coach) how to adopt extroverted behaviors. This doesn't alter my preference from introversion to extroversion, but it does allow me to reach beyond the initial boundaries of my preference for introversion and live the life I want to lead.

In short, because I know the five personality preferences that make up my true self —my life code— I can adopt an identity that is out-of-sync with my personality when I need to. But when I do this, I do it intentionally, in support of achieving my goals. I don't do it because I am confused or because my personality is masked.